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Double Dog Dare of Self-Love!
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SELF-LOVE
I interviewed Christine Arylo, the ‘Queen of Self-Love’ on the “Manage Your Energy, Master Your Life” TeleSummit last night. Wow–she was INSPIRING!
She said that when she started her journey, she knew nothing about self-love. But she did know she wanted to live a more self-loving life than the one she was currently leading (in the corporate world), so she made a vow. That’s how it all started. A vow. That she would love herself no matter what. From there, she figured it out.
FEAR & SELF-LOVE!
One of the things she figured out was the way fear can warp our energy and make loving ourselves more difficult. (To listen to the call, here is the replay information It’s only available until 8 pm this Wednesday so go get it! Or, to get info about the rest of the series, go HERE!)
For most of us, nothing can make us feel smaller, more constricted and unworthy as quickly as fear. So Christine has come up with the 40 Day Fear Cleanse. It looks like a great program, one I’m going to do myself. Check it out to see if its for you. 40 Day Fear Cleanse!
“VOWING” SELF-LOVE
Meanwhile, however, since Christine loves to make what she calls “Love dares”, she tossed one out. The dare is to make this vow: “I will love myself for the rest of my life no matter what.”
I like dares too! So I’m going to up her dare so now it’s a double dare. And since my two dogs are beside me, I’ll add them into the mix too, so now it’s a double dog dare to make that vow!!!
Can you?
Of course you can! If it’s challenging, give me a call!
That’s it for this week. For those of you who subscribe to HA!, my HappinessAnyway.com newsletter, I’m going to be repeating the same content while the TeleSummmit is on! Self-Love abounds!
Happiness Right Now!
Posted by: | CommentsHappiness and Big Things:
We tend to think happiness is found in the BIG things, the right job, the wonderful relationship, ect, but in my experience, this isn’t true. For the most part, happiness is a very momentary thing and can often be found in the small, almost inconsequential minutia of life. If we understand this, we can make small behaviour changes and bring lovely feelings of happiness into our lives on a far more regular basis.
Where Does Happiness Come From?
Most of our happiness and well being comes through our senses, so that’s the place to start. Usually, there are all kinds of things that are pleasing to our senses at any given time. See if that’s true for you right now. Take a moment to sniff the air, or feel it on your skin. Or look out the window and notice the colours or the beauty of some natural object. Or, think of someone you love and feel the swell of your heart.
Look for What’s Pleasing!
If you take the time to look for small things that make you happy, you’ll find the need to pursue the bigger pleasures becomes less important. This is good for the bigger pleasures can take more time to create and meanwhile, there is such a plethora of deliciousness that life offers us each and every moment, why wouldn’t you want to take advantage of that?
A Happiness Challenge!
Take a moment to look around you right now. Find one or two things that are really pleasing. Now focus on those things. Really take in whatever is wonderful about them. Imagine yourself filling up your body with the happiness these pleasures bring.
Now notice if you feel different!
Thought so!
Here’s a lovely video to watch. Lots of wisdom here!
Also, please pass this newsletter on to anyone you think would benefit! Thanks!
Busyness!
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The Badge of Busyness
Below is a poem about Busyness by coach, Christine Arylo. Although the poem is for women, both genders fall under the whip of the task-master’s ‘To Do’ list. Don’t get me wrong, it’s important to get things done, but it’s also important not to. In other words, we need to keep a balance between the part of us that wants to DO and the part of us that wants to BE!
That’s why at the top of my page in the morning, ABOVE my ‘To Do’ list is my ‘To Be’ list. Yes, I want to get things done, but I am old enough and wise enough to know that the ‘To Do’ list is endless and that accomplishing what’s on it may feel good, but it’s not the kind of deep, soulful feeling good that I choose to make my life about. Also, it reminds me that even when I’m attending to my ‘To Do’ list, I can do it in a way that honours my beingness. In other words, I can get things done without busyness. Busyness presumes preoccupation and I can’t experience life fully when I’m preoccupied.
Beingness versus Busyness:
What feels good, good deep down, is when I move through my days with certain beingness qualities. For me, one of the most important ones is ‘being spacious’. When I am being spacious, I give myself time, give myself room, the room to experience the juiciness of the world and not miss it. When I do this, I usually find myself taking a deep breath and noticing the exquisite beauty of something in the world around me. Often I feel an immediate sense of happiness. I am out of my head and out of the contraction that busyness likes to create and into the present moment, which is the only place I can truly experience life. And, even if I carry on with my To Do list, I can do it with a sense of spaciousness. That, to me, is mastery!
Here’s the poem.
We Burn Our Badges of Busyness:
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Christine Arylo
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What are we teaching our girls?
You can be anything.
You can do anything.
You can have anything.
Now get going.
There is much to do.
So much that you will never feel like you’ve done it all.
Allow me to introduce you to your new lifetime companion
Her name is “To-Do List”
She will follow you everywhere from now on
She will be there to greet you when you wake
She will hang out near you all day long
And she will be there when you lay your head down to rest
Making sure that you don’t forget her, even as you try to sleep
You will learn to wear her as a badge of honor
This flashing symbol of busy-ness
She thrives on attention,
lives for compliments,
She seeks out acknowledgments of her busyness,
and ability to ‘get it all done’
without a sweat, and with a smile
She is not stingy
She loves to share accolades with her sister super women
Swooning and commenting on their multi-tasking feats
As if their doingness was the latest, most fabulous, all-the-rage hat
Some days you will be tired
And will want to set down the to dos
Take a break from your badge,
Whose weight you notice has become quiet heavy
You will try to unpin it
Pull it, tear it, yank it,
But no matter how hard you try
Your badge of busyness
Will not budge
Your to-do list
Doesn’t take kindly to being set down
Or Forgotten
She is fiercely intent on
Staying alive
Remaining on center stage
Where she can always be seen
What they (we) didn’t tell you
When you accepted your to-do list as a rite of passage
And fashioned on your badge with pride
Was that try as you might
When you tire
No matter how hard you try
You can’t hide
You can’t run
You can’t even pin that relentless list on some other unsuspecting soul
But YOU can choose
Girl, woman, sister
You have a choice to NEVER pick up
This badge of busyness
You have the choice to walk away and NEVER look back
Not because you stop doing and achieving
Which I know is one of your (my) greatest, unspoken fears
But because you know that you don’t need a
Badge of busyness or a never-ending list of to-dos
To prove your worth
Stand tall
Turn on your heel now
Do not follow us
A generation of women who unknowningly ran down the aisle
To marry busy-ness
And ended up with a sense of self
Tied to ‘what I’ve accomplished and gotten done in a day”
Turn away
Run away
And change your sense of self
for the good
of us all
As you turn away
We will burn our badges
And together we will change
The decree of women forever
“Yes I can do anything.”
“Yes I can be anything.”
“Yes I can have anything.”
BUT NO … I DON’T NEED TO DO BE AND HAVE EVERYTHING
I am valuable simply because I am
Even if I never pick up another to do
Even when I am doing nothing
Especially when I am just being
I am worthy
Because I know the truth
I am enough
Simply because I am
And so are you.
Mother.
Sister.
Daughter.
Woman.
Energy Depletion
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Here’s a conversation that exemplifies energy depletion:
I was listening to someone the other day tell me how awful their job was. And how she suffered from energy depletion. She went on and on (and on) about how terrible her job was.
So I asked her. “What’s good about it?”
“Nothing!” she asserted.
“Does it pay you?” I asked.
“Of course!”
“Do you like getting that pay?”
She could tell I was going somewhere with my questioning and gave me a suspicious look.
“Yeah, I like the pay.”
“How about benefits? Does it give you benefits?”
She gave me a begrudging nod.
“Bet you could come up with 5 more things you like about your job too, if you worked at it.”
“Why would I bother doing that?” she asked.
That led to a longer conversation and the acquisition of a new client, which was great. But, basically, what I told her was this: the brain is predisposed to look for what doesn’t work. That was necessary in the jungle in order to anticipate problems.
How To Avoid Energy Depletion
Nowadays, however, having energy is our most important commodity. Looking for what works gives us energy. Focusing on what isn’t working is a sure recipe for energy depletion.
So if you want a great way to top up your energy, flip the game board on something you’ve been negative about and actively LOOK for what you like. This has the power to flip any energy depletion you may be suffering from. And changing your energy will make you feel powerful and in charge.
Try it. Having energy is crucial to creating your life, especially your BEST LIFE. Learning to change the habits of energy depletion is something we all can do, just by changing our focus!
Keeping An Open Mind
Posted by: | CommentsThe Importance of Positive Thinking:
We all have the propensity to think some things are impossible. But if you’re an entrepreneur or small business owner, you know how important it is to keep an open mind and practice positive thinking.And all of us in these challenging ‘economic’ times need to keep ourselves clean from the rampant negativity that’s in the news and around us.
When I’m coaching people, I spend a good deal of time ‘conditioning’ their minds so first of all, they can be successful and secondly, so that they can hold on to the success they create. Because if outside success doesn’t match the vibration a person has inside, it won’t stick anyway.
How To Cultivate Positive Thinking:
One of the easiest ways of getting yourself into positive thinking is to surround yourself with positive experiences and people. Here is a wonderful YouTube to get you realizing that really anything is possible. Enjoy!
Practicing Positive Thinking is like going to a ‘mental gym’
It will make you feel strong yet light-hearted. Getting yourself in a state that’s strong and light-hearted is hugely important if we want to create great lives. Positive Thinking isn’t just a nice thing to do. It’s essential for growth and success!
Brain Evolution
Posted by: | CommentsI have been talking about how the brain has a neurological proclivity for looking for what’s wrong. In the past, that’s been an important survival mechanism. When we were in the jungle, we had to be on the look out for threat all the time.
But now that we’re out of the jungle, it’s time to compensate for this proclivity and remind ourselves to think differently–in the same way we have to remind ourselves that the world is round even though it looks absolutely flat.
We also have a brain proclivity to bond into groups and to view those who are outside that group as a threat. This isn’t something to be embarrassed about, it’s just something the brain does–it makes us favour our ‘home’ group, whether that’s our gender, our race, our religious affiliation, our gang of friends etc.
When we evolve and heighten our awareness, we can compensate for this. So the question isn’t, “Am I prejudiced?” –of course, you’re prejudiced! The question is, “How am I prejudiced?”
That’s the question that’s going to put new neurological pathways down in the brain. And give us the freedom to be happy that we’re all looking for.
CIGARETTES AND HAPPINESS
Posted by: | CommentsWhich do you think takes more years off your life? Cigarette smoking or being unhappy?
When I first was asked this question, I thought the answer would be cigarette smoking–after all, in the last few years, the media has been hammering us with all the nefarious facts of just how unhealthy cigarette smoking is.
But, as you’ve probably guessed by now, being happy is the horse to bet on. Recent studies have shown that although cigarette smoking will take 3 years off your life, being unhappy will take a full 9 years off your life! That’s six more years!
To my way of thinking, who cares if you live longer if you’re not happy anyway? It’s like having a fridge full of the flavour of ice cream you don’t care for… so what?
So, there are two important facts here…. being happy not only will extend your life significantly but it will make those years far more satisfying.
May you be happy!
Karen
Being Happy ‘Anyway’-
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Happiness–you know what I mean–that airy, light feeling we get sometimes when your whole body feels full of multi-coloured balloons. As if it were your birthday and many friends were around you, telling you how much you mean to them. It’s a deep, satisfied kind of feeling as if every cell in your body were smiling.
For most of us, such times only happen after something special occurs out in the world-we win a contest or get promoted, or go no some exotic holiday–
But what if you could feel happy even when there was nothing outside of yourself prompting it? What if you could feel happy even when things weren’t going so well in your world?
I have great news!! YES YOU CAN!!!
I will teach you some specific skills and techniques that will help you modulate your happiness levels to new heights.
