Top communication skills: Taking 100% responsibility for your relationships!
When I help people with their relationships, I try to upgrade their communication skills. One of the best ways I know to do that is to help them stop pointing their finger at someone else (even if that someone else deserves it) and to take more responsibility for how the relationship is going themselves.
If I hear a conversation that goes like this: “He/She should….” Or, “He/she never . . . ” I know their index finger is straight as an arrow and targeted at the bull’s eye of the other person. That means that person’s communication skills are probably low.
Not Taking Responsibility shows a lock of communication skills:
When people don’t show communications skills like taking full responsibility, it’s often because they feel frustrated and powerless. If we make the other person the problem, we feel better. But it’s counterproductive. The only person we can change in a relationship is ourselves. So, how about we set about doing that: changing ourselves.
What Communication Skills like Taking 100% Responsibility Looks Like:
What that means is that if we want there to be more kindness in the relationship, we crank up our own kindness to 100%. If we want there to be more communication skills, we take 100% for creating communicating skills ourselves. Whatever we want in the relationship, we take full responsibility for creating!
First of all, that puts what we want in the field, which is great. Secondly, it stimulates our partners to reciprocate. And lastly, it just feels good to both parties.
Here’s a lovely video on this concept by a company called Simple Truths. It’s short and sweet! Enjoy.