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Double Dog Dare of Self-Love!

October 1, 2015 by Karen Leave a Comment

 

SELF-LOVE

I interviewed Christine Arylo, the ‘Queen of Self-Love’ on the “Manage Your Energy, Master Your Life” TeleSummit last night. Wow–she was INSPIRING!

She said that when she started her journey, she knew nothing about self-love. But she did know she wanted to live a more self-loving life than the one she was currently leading (in the corporate world), so she made a vow. That’s how it all started. A vow. That she would love herself no matter what. From there, she figured it out.

FEAR & SELF-LOVE!

One of the things she figured out was the way fear can warp our energy and make loving ourselves more difficult. (To listen to the call, here is the replay information It’s only available until 8 pm this Wednesday so go get it! Or, to get info about the rest of the series, go HERE!)

For most of us, nothing can make us feel smaller, more constricted and unworthy as quickly as fear. So Christine has come up with the 40 Day Fear Cleanse. It looks like a great program, one I’m going to do myself. Check it out to see if its for you. 40 Day Fear Cleanse!

“VOWING” SELF-LOVE

Meanwhile, however, since Christine loves to make what she calls “Love dares”, she tossed one out. The dare is to make this vow: “I will love myself for the rest of my life no matter what.”

I like dares too! So I’m going to up her dare so now it’s a double dare. And since my two dogs are beside me, I’ll add them into the mix too, so now it’s a double dog dare to make that vow!!!

Can you?

Of course you can! If it’s challenging, give me a call!

That’s it for this week. For those of you who subscribe to HA!, my HappinessAnyway.com newsletter, I’m going to be repeating the same content while the TeleSummmit is on! Self-Love abounds!

Filed Under: Sself-Empowerment, Thoughts, Tools, Uncategorized Tagged With: self-love

Happiness Right Now!

July 16, 2015 by Karen Leave a Comment

Happiness and Big Things:

We tend to think happiness is found in the BIG things, the right job, the wonderful relationship, ect, but in my experience, this isn’t true. For the most part, happiness is a very momentary thing and can often be found in the small, almost inconsequential minutia of life. If we understand this, we can make small behaviour changes and bring lovely feelings of happiness into our lives on a far more regular basis.

Where Does Happiness Come From?


Most of our happiness and well being comes through our senses, so that’s the place to start. Usually, there are all kinds of things that are pleasing to our senses at any given time. See if that’s true for you right now. Take a moment to sniff the air,  or feel it on your skin. Or look out the window and notice the colours or the beauty of some natural object.  Or, think of someone you love and feel the swell of your heart.

Look for What’s Pleasing!


If you take the time to look for small things that make you happy, you’ll find the need to pursue the bigger pleasures becomes less important. This is good for the bigger pleasures can take more time to create and meanwhile, there is such a plethora of deliciousness that life offers us each and every moment, why wouldn’t you want to take advantage of that?

A Happiness Challenge!


Take a moment to look around you right now. Find one or two things that are really pleasing. Now focus on those things. Really take in whatever is wonderful about them. Imagine yourself filling up your body with the happiness these pleasures bring.

Now notice if you feel different!

Thought so!

Here’s a lovely video to watch. Lots of wisdom here!
Also, please pass this newsletter on to anyone you think would benefit! Thanks!

 


Filed Under: Energy, Thoughts, Uncategorized

Busyness!

June 6, 2015 by Karen Leave a Comment

The Badge of Busyness

Below is a poem about Busyness by coach, Christine Arylo. Although the poem is for women, both genders fall under the whip of the task-master’s ‘To Do’ list. Don’t get me wrong, it’s important to get things done, but it’s also important not to. In other words, we need to keep a balance between the part of us that wants to DO and the part of us that wants to BE!

That’s why at the top of my page in the morning, ABOVE my ‘To Do’ list is my ‘To Be’ list. Yes, I want to get things done, but I am old enough and wise enough to know that the ‘To Do’ list is endless and that accomplishing what’s on it may feel good, but it’s not the kind of deep, soulful feeling good that I choose to make my life about. Also, it reminds me that even when I’m attending to my ‘To Do’ list, I can do it in a way that honours my beingness. In other words, I can get things done without busyness. Busyness presumes preoccupation and I can’t experience life fully when I’m preoccupied.

Beingness versus Busyness:

What feels good, good deep down, is when I move through my days with certain beingness qualities. For me, one of the most important ones is ‘being spacious’. When I am being spacious, I give myself time, give myself room, the room to experience the juiciness of the world and not miss it. When I do this, I usually find myself taking a deep breath and noticing the exquisite beauty of something in the world around me. Often I feel an immediate sense of happiness. I am out of my head and out of the contraction that busyness likes to create and into the present moment, which is the only place I can truly experience life. And, even if I carry on with my To Do list, I can do it with a sense of spaciousness. That, to me, is mastery!

Here’s the poem.

We Burn Our Badges of Busyness:

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Christine Arylo
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What are we teaching our girls?

You can be anything.
You can do anything.
You can have anything.

Now get going.

There is much to do.
So much that you will never feel like you’ve done it all.

Allow me to introduce you to your new lifetime companion
Her name is “To-Do List”

She will follow you everywhere from now on
She will be there to greet you when you wake
She will hang out near you all day long
And she will be there when you lay your head down to rest
Making sure that you don’t forget her, even as you try to sleep

You will learn to wear her as a badge of honor
This flashing symbol of busy-ness
She thrives on attention,
lives for compliments,
She seeks out acknowledgments of her busyness,
and ability to ‘get it all done’
without a sweat, and with a smile

She is not stingy
She loves to share accolades with her sister super women
Swooning and commenting on their multi-tasking feats
As if their doingness was the latest, most fabulous, all-the-rage hat

Some days you will be tired
And will want to set down the to dos
Take a break from your badge,
Whose weight you notice has become quiet heavy

You will try to unpin it
Pull it, tear it, yank it,
But no matter how hard you try
Your badge of busyness
Will not budge

Your to-do list
Doesn’t take kindly to being set down
Or Forgotten
She is fiercely intent on
Staying alive
Remaining on center stage
Where she can always be seen

What they (we) didn’t tell you
When you accepted your to-do list as a rite of passage
And fashioned on your badge with pride
Was that try as you might
When you tire
No matter how hard you try
You can’t hide
You can’t run
You can’t even pin that relentless list on some other unsuspecting soul

But YOU can choose

Girl, woman, sister
You have a choice to NEVER pick up
This badge of busyness
You have the choice to walk away and NEVER look back
Not because you stop doing and achieving
Which I know is one of your (my) greatest, unspoken fears
But because you know that you don’t need a
Badge of busyness or a never-ending list of to-dos
To prove your worth

Stand tall
Turn on your heel now
Do not follow us
A generation of women who unknowningly ran down the aisle
To marry busy-ness
And ended up with a sense of self
Tied to ‘what I’ve accomplished and gotten done in a day”

Turn away
Run away
And change your sense of self
for the good
of us all

As you turn away
We will burn our badges
And together we will change
The decree of women forever

“Yes I can do anything.”
“Yes I can be anything.”
“Yes I can have anything.”

BUT NO … I DON’T NEED TO DO BE AND HAVE EVERYTHING

I am valuable simply because I am
Even if I never pick up another to do
Even when I am doing nothing
Especially when I am just being
I am worthy

Because I know the truth

I am enough
Simply because I am

And so are you.

Mother.
Sister.
Daughter.
Woman.

Filed Under: Energy, Thoughts Tagged With: Karen Hood-Caddy, spaciousness

Energy Depletion

March 22, 2015 by Karen Leave a Comment


Here’s a conversation that exemplifies energy depletion:

I was listening to someone the other day tell me how awful their job was. And how she suffered from energy depletion. She went on and on (and on) about how terrible her job was.

So I asked her. “What’s good about it?”

“Nothing!”  she asserted.

“Does it pay you?” I asked.

“Of course!”

“Do you like getting that pay?”

She could tell I was going somewhere with my questioning and gave me a suspicious look.

“Yeah, I like the pay.”

“How about benefits? Does it give you benefits?”

She gave me a begrudging nod.

“Bet you could come up with 5 more things you like about your job too, if you worked at it.”

“Why would I bother doing that?”  she asked.

That led to a longer conversation and the acquisition of a new client, which was great. But, basically, what I told her was this: the brain is predisposed to look for what doesn’t work. That was necessary in the jungle in order to anticipate problems.

How To Avoid Energy Depletion

Nowadays, however, having energy is our most important commodity. Looking for what works gives us energy. Focusing on what isn’t working is a sure recipe for energy depletion.

So if you want a great way to top up your energy, flip the game board on something you’ve been negative about and actively LOOK for what you like. This has the power to flip any energy depletion you may be suffering from. And changing your energy will make you feel powerful and in charge.

Try it. Having energy is crucial to creating your life, especially your BEST LIFE. Learning to change the habits of energy depletion is something we all can do, just by changing our focus!

Filed Under: Energy, Health, Thoughts Tagged With: energy depletion

Being Happy ‘Anyway’-

February 3, 2015 by Karen Leave a Comment

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Happiness–you know what I mean–that airy, light feeling we get sometimes when your whole body feels full of multi-coloured balloons. As if it were your birthday and many friends were around you, telling you how much you mean to them. It’s a deep, satisfied kind of feeling as if every cell in your body were smiling.

For most of us, such times only happen after something special occurs out in the world-we win a contest or get promoted, or go no some exotic holiday–

But what if you could feel happy even when there was nothing outside of yourself prompting it? What if you could feel happy even when things weren’t going so well in your world?

I have great news!! YES YOU CAN!!!

I will teach you some specific skills and techniques that will help you modulate your happiness levels to new heights.

Filed Under: Thoughts Tagged With: healing, how to

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