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Busyness!

June 6, 2015 by Karen Leave a Comment

The Badge of Busyness

Below is a poem about Busyness by coach, Christine Arylo. Although the poem is for women, both genders fall under the whip of the task-master’s ‘To Do’ list. Don’t get me wrong, it’s important to get things done, but it’s also important not to. In other words, we need to keep a balance between the part of us that wants to DO and the part of us that wants to BE!

That’s why at the top of my page in the morning, ABOVE my ‘To Do’ list is my ‘To Be’ list. Yes, I want to get things done, but I am old enough and wise enough to know that the ‘To Do’ list is endless and that accomplishing what’s on it may feel good, but it’s not the kind of deep, soulful feeling good that I choose to make my life about. Also, it reminds me that even when I’m attending to my ‘To Do’ list, I can do it in a way that honours my beingness. In other words, I can get things done without busyness. Busyness presumes preoccupation and I can’t experience life fully when I’m preoccupied.

Beingness versus Busyness:

What feels good, good deep down, is when I move through my days with certain beingness qualities. For me, one of the most important ones is ‘being spacious’. When I am being spacious, I give myself time, give myself room, the room to experience the juiciness of the world and not miss it. When I do this, I usually find myself taking a deep breath and noticing the exquisite beauty of something in the world around me. Often I feel an immediate sense of happiness. I am out of my head and out of the contraction that busyness likes to create and into the present moment, which is the only place I can truly experience life. And, even if I carry on with my To Do list, I can do it with a sense of spaciousness. That, to me, is mastery!

Here’s the poem.

We Burn Our Badges of Busyness:

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Christine Arylo
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What are we teaching our girls?

You can be anything.
You can do anything.
You can have anything.

Now get going.

There is much to do.
So much that you will never feel like you’ve done it all.

Allow me to introduce you to your new lifetime companion
Her name is “To-Do List”

She will follow you everywhere from now on
She will be there to greet you when you wake
She will hang out near you all day long
And she will be there when you lay your head down to rest
Making sure that you don’t forget her, even as you try to sleep

You will learn to wear her as a badge of honor
This flashing symbol of busy-ness
She thrives on attention,
lives for compliments,
She seeks out acknowledgments of her busyness,
and ability to ‘get it all done’
without a sweat, and with a smile

She is not stingy
She loves to share accolades with her sister super women
Swooning and commenting on their multi-tasking feats
As if their doingness was the latest, most fabulous, all-the-rage hat

Some days you will be tired
And will want to set down the to dos
Take a break from your badge,
Whose weight you notice has become quiet heavy

You will try to unpin it
Pull it, tear it, yank it,
But no matter how hard you try
Your badge of busyness
Will not budge

Your to-do list
Doesn’t take kindly to being set down
Or Forgotten
She is fiercely intent on
Staying alive
Remaining on center stage
Where she can always be seen

What they (we) didn’t tell you
When you accepted your to-do list as a rite of passage
And fashioned on your badge with pride
Was that try as you might
When you tire
No matter how hard you try
You can’t hide
You can’t run
You can’t even pin that relentless list on some other unsuspecting soul

But YOU can choose

Girl, woman, sister
You have a choice to NEVER pick up
This badge of busyness
You have the choice to walk away and NEVER look back
Not because you stop doing and achieving
Which I know is one of your (my) greatest, unspoken fears
But because you know that you don’t need a
Badge of busyness or a never-ending list of to-dos
To prove your worth

Stand tall
Turn on your heel now
Do not follow us
A generation of women who unknowningly ran down the aisle
To marry busy-ness
And ended up with a sense of self
Tied to ‘what I’ve accomplished and gotten done in a day”

Turn away
Run away
And change your sense of self
for the good
of us all

As you turn away
We will burn our badges
And together we will change
The decree of women forever

“Yes I can do anything.”
“Yes I can be anything.”
“Yes I can have anything.”

BUT NO … I DON’T NEED TO DO BE AND HAVE EVERYTHING

I am valuable simply because I am
Even if I never pick up another to do
Even when I am doing nothing
Especially when I am just being
I am worthy

Because I know the truth

I am enough
Simply because I am

And so are you.

Mother.
Sister.
Daughter.
Woman.

Filed Under: Energy, Thoughts Tagged With: Karen Hood-Caddy, spaciousness

Being Happy Anyway is a Decision!

May 23, 2015 by Karen Leave a Comment

Being Happy About My Book Being Done~!

My apologies for the lack of newsletters lately. I’ve been engrossed in getting a novel to the publishers. It’s now IN!!!! Done! It’ll be out in November! I’ll post more about it closer to the time!

Being Happy and Having Stuff!

I love that our culture is starting to study happiness now and is ‘getting’ that happiness doesn’t result from having stuff. Otherwise, why would the U.S. top the list of countries most suffering from depression? (According to a 2004 study done by the World Health Organization that rated 14 countries.)

Happiness doesn’t result from accomplishing stuff either. The suicides of hugely successful people have woken us up to this fairy tale and have shown us what Jon Kabat-Zinn, the meditation teacher points out, “wherever you go, there you are”.

Irritations That Block Being Happy!

But meanwhile, ‘issues’–things we don’t like or find irritating continue to occur. How to deal with them so you can experience being happy anyway? Here are some tips!

Decide not to be a pinball machine, just reacting to the button-pushing events. Asserting that you have power and choice is HUGE!

Recognize that you can choose being happy anyway. You may not think you have a choice, but just asserting that you do will get you searching for new and different ways of responding.

Let go of any resistance to the fact that an ‘issue’ is there. As Byron Katie says, “When you argue with reality you only lose 100% of the time!”

Now for a special technique. See if you can find ‘space’ for what’s irritating. To do that, you have to become bigger, more expansive. A little visualization will help. Imagine yourself as a huge ocean and see the irritation as a small bit of rubbish floating within it. See it, but within a bigger vastness of Who You Are!



A Meditation for Being Happy!

Here’s a meditation that will help you do that. It’s one I’ve made myself. Check it out. Click HERE to get it. The meditation will help you create the conditions for being happy ‘anyway’–which is a powerful skill to have. Especially in these tsunami-like times!

If you like this meditation and want to explore other techniques for modulating your energy, click on –Change Your Energy, Change Your Life which is a 40-day online course you can try out the first week at no charge to see if you like it!

Filed Under: Energy, Research, Tools

Energy!

May 11, 2015 by Karen Leave a Comment

ENERGY!!!


ENERGY is our most precious commodity.

When we have energy and that energy is positive and

lush and lively, we can do almost anything. We can even

overcome problems more easily!

When we don’t have energy, or that energy is slow and/or

negative, we really can’t do much.


Change Your Energy and Change Your Life!

In all my 30 years of coaching, helping people to change their

energy is really what I do. I use a lot of different techniques and I’ve

been putting them together into a course I’ll tell you more about

next week. (It’s a 40-day online course with audios,videos,

meditations, visualizations, tapping procedures & MORE for changing

energy.)


Changing Energy

Let me share a really simple tool for modulating your energy right

now. But first, pick a number between 1 and 10 that describes where

your energy is before you do it, then check again after so you can

test the change. I’m asking you to do this because this particular

exercise is simple. yet is will expand the state of your energy field

and make it more positive.

To try it, click the link HERE

I’ll tell you more next week!

Filed Under: Energy, Health, Tools

Change Your Energy, Change Your Life!

May 3, 2015 by Karen Leave a Comment

CHANGE YOUR ENERGY, CHANGE YOUR LIFE!

Exciting news! I have just finished creating a 40-day online course called Change Your Energy, Change Your Life! which is full of tools to help you change your energy from negative to positive, from tired and discouraged to energized and optimistic at will.

Each ‘lesson’ (about 5-10 minutes) contains some coaching, and an audio, or video with an easy to learn technique or meditation or tool to help you change your energy. The lessons are sometimes pithy, sometimes funny and always inspiring.

This course represents the best of all I know so far in my 30 years of coaching.  Check it out HERE

Mastering Energy Modulation is the Ultimate Skill!

To me, the ULTIMATE freedom is being able to modulate your own energy from moment to moment! It’s powerful stuff! This allows you to be ‘happy anyway’! Even when life is throwing tough stuff at you, you can still feel good.

I’m gifting the first week F*R*E*E so you can test it out and see if it’s for you. If it isn’t and you don’t opt-in for more, no more emails will come to you. If you do decide to go for the full 40 days, the cost is $29.oo

Energy Is Everything!

If you want to be more in charge of how you feel, no matter what else is going on in your world, this course may be for you! Energy is EVERYTHING. It’s what you build your life with, it’s what attracts people and situations to you. Learn to create the energy YOU want! Here’s the link, once more. CHANGE YOUR ENERGY COURSE

Filed Under: Energy Tagged With: Change Your Energy Course

Possibility Thinking

April 12, 2015 by Karen Leave a Comment

Here is a short video on Possibility Thinking:

Switching to Possibility Thinking:

Stories like this are inspiring. They get us to switch from impossibility thinking to possibility thinking. Here are some ways to do that yourself.

Ask yourself these questions:

What IS working?

What, even in the smallest way, is GOOD about this?

How would a Possibility Thinker handle this situation?

Possibility Thinking is Powerful!

As you can see, we can learn Possibility Thinking. It just takes practice. But it’s SO worth it, because our moods and actions usually follow thought. Possibility Thinking is a POWERFUL thing to do!!

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